Using Sacred Space to Build Intimacy
We were recently introduced to the idea of using Sacred Space as a way to build intimacy and deepen our relationship. We create Sacred Space by setting aside a specific period of time when we will be alone with each other, preferably in a quiet spot where we won’t be disturbed. So far we have held one Sacred Space session outside in a natural setting, and the others have been in our bedroom. One hour is a good amount of time to spend in Sacred Space.
Sacred Space can be used in many ways. For example, one person can be the Receiver for the entire session, setting the agenda by asking the partner (the Giver) for one or more forms of loving attention. The Receiver may simply want the Giver to listen while the Receiver unloads something troublesome. Or the Receiver may want a massage or simply to be held in loving arms.
We have also used Sacred Space to process something that is bothering one or both of us. When we process an issue like this in Sacred Space, we each commit to making the discussion highly constructive, while avoiding defensiveness or other non-productive behaviors. One of the most valuable factors in Sacred Space is the ability of both of us to ‘hold space’ for the other. I will talk about this in my next blog.
Our Sacred Space sessions have been a true blessing to our relationship. We encourage you to try this out, and be sure to let us know how it goes! JEFF
