Getting ‘Triggered’
We just got back from a wonderful eight-day trip to Florida. We went to a conference on internet marketing in Orlando, and we were able to spend some time visiting with family while we were there. We had a great time and really did some quality connecting as a couple, enhanced by the Florida ambiance.
Nevertheless, on the morning after returning to Michigan, Terrie expressed her feelings about a money-related event that occurred on the airplane coming back from Orlando. Although I tried to engage in a constructive dialogue about Terrie’s reactions to the event, my deep-seated money ‘issues’ were soon triggered and before I knew it, I was responding out of anger and resentment. It was amazing to see how quickly I descended into a dark place, separating and isolating myself from Terrie, even after such a wonderful time together.
It took me until the afternoon of the next day to fully emerge from my ‘trance’ and request some sacred space in order to process the issue. Fortunately, Terrie had been able to ‘hold space’ for me while I went through my stuff. In the next few posts, I will tell you about what I mean by ’sacred space’ and ‘holding space’. JEFF
