Connection Tool
We speak of the trinity relationship is built on: Connection, Passion and Spirituality. This first entry for me is about Connection. I have had many opportunities these past couple of days, while my Beloved and I have been together, to feel connected and create intimacy. On one occasion I disconnected instead. To understand and share with him the reason for disconnecting brought me just as close, possibly even closer…for the simple fact that now we have a new tool because of the experience (Jeff also references this tool in his latest post.)
What I discovered in our process was that I disconnected from him because old tapes were running below the surface. Past tapes of things others I was in relationship said and did and things I did and believed were true about me. Things that were buried behind other things. I disconnected because I believed I needed to understand WHY I felt disconnected before I could bring it to the relationship…NOT TRUE as I further discovered! What a relief!
When I did speak to Jeff about my disconnection later, I still didn’t have much of a clue. Through his loving support and my willingness, I began to understand what happened. I disconnected because I feared judgment and retribution…neither had anything to do with Jeff at all or the current situation. It was my emotional reaction to the past, on some level judging myself. Through sharing my process of self-discovery with Jeff we both had the opportunity to learn and grow. I felt my heart open and the energy flow. I felt the love and compassion that was present between us and for myself with my newfound clarity. If I had chosen not to share my process we would not have the tool I mentioned earlier either.
This tool is simply to state to the other: “I am feeling disconnected.” These four words alone, for us, will open a door to further discovery and a deepening of connection and intimacy in our lives—within ourselves and each other. To share the deepest, darkest, scariest part of myself with another opens my heart, brings light to it and heals it. What words open you up to more intimacy, more capacity for love and compassion, with yourself, your Beloved, within your relationships, within your life? Terrie
